October 10, 2019
Some people have been thinking about divorce for many months or years before they finally share their feelings with their spouse. Others don’t take nearly as much time to lay their feelings out on the table.
Since the divorce process begins when you bring your feelings to light, it’s important to take the right approach. Here are five things you can do to ease the tension of asking your spouse for a divorce:
- Choose the right time and place
- Prepare for the conversation, including what you want to say and how you’ll deal with your spouse’s reaction
- Maintain your stance that divorce is the best way to proceed (don’t change your mind)
- Keep your safety in mind at all times, such as by asking for a divorce on the phone if you feel threatened by your spouse
- Don’t discuss the details of your divorce, such as matters of property division and child custody, during this conversation
Doing these things sounds easy enough, but you may find the conversation taking a turn for the worse.
For example, your spouse may continue to turn the discussion toward the future, wanting to know your plans regarding child custody, property division and spousal support among other matters.
Once you discuss divorce with your spouse, you can then learn more about the process and how it will unfold. This will help you learn more about your legal rights and the steps you’ll take to protect them.
There’s no way of knowing what will happen during the divorce process and upon completion, but that shouldn’t stop you from doing your part in preparing accordingly.